Am I Normal?

One of the reasons I decided to start writing a blog, was to be able to document family life. To write about mine and Toms future together, consisting of wedding rings and babies. Obviously this would seem a silly topic to most; I don’t have any babies, I’m not pregnant and I’m not even trying (oh and we’re not married yet either!). Yet, I already read the mummy magazines, Tom and I discuss our ideals of parenting and I have an overflowing Pinterest Board catered to first birthdays and birthing plans. Am I crazy? Or is this as ‘normal’ as planning your dream wedding since the age of 6? I sincerely hope so…

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I guess when you know you’ve found ‘the one’-as cheesy as that sounds-you feel much more maternal and at ease with the thoughts of no sleep and no money! For me, the drive to have a child, isn’t just about becoming a family, as I believe Tom and I are already that, but more so, to become a Mother.

My body and mindset may be at a high state of broody-ness, however, I’m not too sure my bank account is yet. Plus I do believe Tom and I could do with seeing a little bit more of ‘child-free’ life before we start to try. That being said, we’d still be overjoyed if we fell pregnant tomorrow.

 

I’m not entirely sure if I’m riding this wave alone, but I’m fighting a daily battle in my head (some days out loud to Tom, poor man!) of which pram will be good for a boy and a girl, if I can jog with it and how many shopping bags can fit in and around it, and if it’s not a panic over pram choice, it’s names! Is this ‘normal’? Please make me feel slightly sane and confirm this is a worry most twenty-something year olds experience! I’m presuming hormones definitely play a part in this instinctive desire to become a Mummy, but I highly doubt these hormones drive me to literally spend a day ‘Pinning’ nursery furniture and hospital bag checklists!

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The benefits of being slightly obsessive and crazy like myself, is that, when this part of my life begins, I most definitely can say ‘I’ve done my research!’. I should, hopefully, be ready for the journey of pregnancy and parenthood, not prepared, but ready. I don’t think you can ever feel fully prepared-you never know how it’s all going to pan out and you can not prepare for the unpredictable. But I should definitely feel ready! I guess I enjoy the idea that when I find out I’m pregnant, I have already read a pregnancy book (and more…) and therefore know the kind of changes I should expect my body to go through. I also have an understanding of pregnancy now. It sounds silly but until you read about it (or go through it!), you don’t really know quite what happens during pregnancy and birthing a baby. Some may be scared of learning all this information before getting pregnant, but for me, I feel more confident and comfortable about becoming a Mummy, having read about the journey before it begins.

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Even though I’m chomping at the bit to become a Mum, there are a few things I most definitely want to do before this chapter of my life begins…

I would love for Mr.T and I to go on a big holiday together. We’ve been thinking about this one for a long time now, and with the both of us being quite the adventurer, and shall we say ‘big kids at heart’, we have agreed on Disney World and Universal Studios in Orlando, Florida. Great weather, endless adventures, non stop fun and something we couldn’t do once I’m pregnant or have a newborn! So we’ve started a holiday fund (but with the prices attached, it might take us a little longer than expected!). Fingers crossed it’ll be 2016!

This was the first ever photo of Tom and I together - I'm wearing a Disney Onesie, Tom in a Disney Jumper and wearing my Minnie Mouse Hat (so Disney World is kind of a no-brainer!)

This was the first ever photo of Tom and I together – I’m wearing a Disney Onesie, Tom in a Disney Jumper and wearing my Minnie Mouse Hat (so Disney World is kind of a no-brainer!)

Get a strong, lean and healthy (well, healthier) body. I don’t want anyone to read this the wrong way, but I want to be at my best, before falling pregnant. I guess I feel that if I’m at my healthiest, I will be giving my unborn baby the healthiest start in life also.

I’d love to have a ring on my finger…(no hints intended!) I don’t necessarily want to be married first, as the thought of having our children at our wedding is something we both quite enjoy!

Buy a bigger car! I think in the next year or so, I’ll definitely be on the hunt for a nice, big, Mummy-style set of wheels! Automatic also, as these motorway journeys are a bitch otherwise!

God knows what our options will be when it comes to buying or renting a property, but whatever the situation is, we will be wanting a two bed relatively soon. Not necessarily for a babies nursery, but to have family and friends able to stay over, and have more than a couch to offer them!

I would love to have achieved something quite amazing. Something I can feel extremely proud of. I’m not sure what this is yet…but I just want to feel really good about something I have done. Maybe this is a little vague, but I’m willing to go with it!

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My first day of Aunty duties – I loved it then and I love it now

I’ve been an Aunty since I was seven years old, and as silly as it sounds, I believe it was at that point that I knew I wanted children of my own. Growing up surrounded by beautiful little lovelies has been an absolute joy for me. Seeing them all grow up before my eyes, and still growing as we speak, fills me with pride and overwhelming happiness. Believe it or not, I’m now an Aunty to nine! I know, I know – Christmas is already expensive, do I really need children of my own?! Seriously though, the more the merrier in my eyes and the madness of family get togethers is something I love. So when my time, whenever that time may be, finally arrives, I doubt I’ll even be able to contain my excitement or control my emotions! But for now, I shall settle with ever-growing Pinterest boards and precious time with Tom, before a baba sits between us at every meal, sleep and couch snuggle!

Jessica X

P.S. This wasn’t easy to write, it’s so honest, it’s scary.

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13 Comments

  1. Marie Therese Chlond
    25th June 2015 / 12:43 pm

    I’ve laughed & cried reading this blog! If anyone was made to be a mummy it was you 🙂 You are the most remarkable woman I have ever met in my life and I am truly blessed to have you & Sarah as my sisters and best friends. When you do become a mum, you and Tom will be fantastic as parents! Enjoy every little minute together before the sleep deprivation & the craziness called parenting begins. You know what’s coming and definitely not going in blind with the amount of practice you’ve had!! Much love xx

  2. 27th April 2017 / 11:18 am

    Whatever that brings you joy and smile on your face is def normal. And maybe whats normal to you isn’t to somebody else? 🙂 but who cares as long as you are happy. listen to your heart when it comes to making decisions -you can’t make a wrong one. 🙂

    • Jessica Marie
      27th April 2017 / 11:37 am

      Thanks Zana, that’s so lovely of you! Xx

  3. 27th April 2017 / 4:27 pm

    I think that a lot of women think more about their future and what it can bring than what men do, so I’m sure you aren’t alone in your Pinterest boards of weddings and nurseries 😊 I have a nursery Pinterest board but it’s a secret one but I’m hoping after my 6th ivf cycle in the summer I can make it visible.

    • Jessica Marie
      27th April 2017 / 5:52 pm

      Oh, I really hope you have IVF success! I will keep you in my thoughts, must be a very difficult thing to go through and I think so many take pregnancy and healthy babies for granted. Best wishes Denise and thanks for popping by Xx

  4. 27th April 2017 / 5:53 pm

    Haha, I’ve got the exact same Pinterest boards. Although, I’m married & I’ve got a kiddo. I just love scrolling through the inspiration 🙂 You’re absolutely normal!

    • Jessica Marie
      27th April 2017 / 6:10 pm

      Haha, I’m glad everyone is saying I’m normal!! Pinterest is sooo good for things like that, I guess we all do it!! Thanks for popping by!! Xx

  5. 27th April 2017 / 6:04 pm

    Trust me girl you’re perfectly normal. Hubby and I are starting our ivf journey again next month and have probably mapped our future babas life out already. I hope it happens for us this time.
    Katja xxx
    http://www.katnapped.com

    • Jessica Marie
      27th April 2017 / 6:08 pm

      I’m glad I’m not completely crazy!! I have my babies lives planned out too lol and we haven’t even started trying yet!! Oh wow another one who’s experiencing IVF – gosh I have everything crossed for you both. I do hope your dream of becoming a Mummy happens soon for you. Thank you so much for popping by and sharing that with me. xXx

  6. 27th April 2017 / 11:29 pm

    Awww…This is so lovely and from a very honest place…..you’re definitely normal…..its ok to plan ahead…do what makes you happy….

  7. 28th April 2017 / 12:11 am

    It’s hard to plan out everything in life. Although I certainly understand wanting to do everything in the right time. I hope that everything works out and the if you haven’t been to Disney World already that you will be able to go very soon.

  8. 28th April 2017 / 1:46 am

    You are absolutely normal! It’s good to be prepared and planned and take notes for your dream wedding or what your future should look like and how you want to celebrate the milestones in your life 🙂

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  9. 29th April 2017 / 7:35 am

    I think it’s normal as a girl to want to become a mother. I also had that. I even studied to become a teacher because I thouht that I was such a childrens friend and fan. In the end, I just wanted my own family.

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